It is not fair to keep on popping out children with the Black norwegian elkhound I didn’t fart my butt blew you a kiss shirt it is in the first place but expectation that the older ones will help out. They were not involved in the decision-making process to have another child whatsoever, so they shouldn’t have to deal with the consequences of that decision. Children should be able to BE children when they are young. They shouldn’t have to take on adult responsibilities like child-rearing unless they make that decision themselves one day. The effects of delegating child-rearing to the older kids are nearly always negative, in my experience. Many of the people I meet who came from large families want absolutely nothing to do with children once they are adults because they spent their entire childhoods taking care of a gaggle of other siblings. Having children is the greatest source of joy and fulfillment for most people (although, admittedly, not for everyone). It is unfortunate that many people from large families are robbed of the decision of having their own children because they are so sick of taking care of someone else’s their entire lives. Of course, a child from any family could grow up to not want children, and that is completely fine. However, that decision should not be the result of negative childhood memories created by inconsiderate parents. Overall, I think that most people that have or plan to have an excessive amount of children are either ignorant or misinformed about the effects that having a large family will have on each individual child. Or they are selfish and only consider themselves when they have additional children, instead of also considering the lives that they have already brought into this world. It’s important to teach children manners because you like to take them along, and you cannot take rowdies into certain settings. While I gave high importance to teaching manners and etiquette, I also let them know how to start a good food fight. That’s a lot for kids, but they had years to master it. I didn’t find I needed to spend much time on the behavior involved–took care of itself apart from safety and some advice on formal behavior; those took some drilling. It was the cues that were the key, and that’s really what you want to convey to your kids anyway how to act appropriately for the setting and what is going on around them.