I was told that he was going to do what he wanted to do. I bit my tongue believing if I gave him space he would find an inner happiness again. Two years ago his behaviour towards me told me he was in an affair. Denied it over and over. Believe me, as a wife you know when your husband has replaced you with someone else, it’s like you no longer exist. I have realised that people who have not lived through the ramifications of an affair have no understanding of the pain, the lies, the severe selfishness, the lack of respect, the loss of trust which comes with the affair and the life crisis.