She wants to be friends with benefits. Is this a good idea? Put aside this suggested pseudo-detective work in checking her out via social media and public domain inquiries – ‘virtual stalking’ in effect. It is sly, sneaky, and disrespectful of her right to privacy. First, catch her eye, get to meet her in a social setting, gain her trust, and then – if she likes what she sees – you may be in luck. If not, this is not a unilateral process where only your desires count. The old adages hold good: Faint heart never won a fair maiden and Slow and steady wins the race. Good luck! You have to be clear to her to not expect anything much more than sex.