In other words that I wear blue for My Granddaughter Accept Understand love Autism awareness heart shirt all these years he has settled that’s why he was still with me. When I confronted him about what he said he said oh I wasnt talking about you I said really then who ? I have been with him 30 years who else could he have been talking about . He was gaslighting me like always. I think he actually believes he’s not a bad guy. I dont what standards he goes by that would make you not a good person . He lives by no moral code. When it comes to him he has a reason to justify what he did or said to me. In order to make sure it is known that he wasnt at fault. He does not want to be looked at as the bad guy in any situation. Absolutely not, for one thing he cant accept being wrong and that would mean he was wrong.