Sit down with him and say you need help. Find out what he can do that are his strengths, then get him to help with that. Eventually, give him a bit more. Mine pays for a cleaner each week. I got so sick of looking after everything, I told him if he can pitch in he can hire someone too. Unpopular opinion: if you’re a stay at home mother it is your job to keep your house for your children and your husband. And well done to you for having a luxury many mothers would die for. If you also work it’s about finding balance.